Everything is great with her but my problem is that she is dating someone else. However, their relationship is not that strong. But even after this she is not thinking of breaking up with him. I love her very much. I do not understand what should I do. Should I confess my feelings to him or should I keep quiet? (All images are indicative, we protect the identity of users in the stories shared by them)
Expert Answer
Relationship counselor Rachna Avatramani in Mumbai says that friendship and love are two very different things. Friendship plays an important role in a romantic relationship. But it is not absolutely necessary that every friendship turns into love. As you said you like your best friend. You share all the problems with each other. But the problem is that she is dating someone else. In such a situation, you are confused whether you should tell your feeling to him or not?
In such a situation, I would say that first of all you should be sure whether you love him as a friend or as a romantic partner. This is because sometimes it happens that we start loving our friend, but it is not necessary that he is perfect for you.
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Less likely to get a positive response
You also mentioned that he is in a relationship with someone, which is not very strong. But even after this she does not want to breakup. In such a situation, I would say that the chances of you getting a positive response in this relationship are very less. This is because she likes someone else.
Although, you can tell your heart to them, but after that you have to be ready for whatever their answer is. If she agrees to be in a relationship with you, then great, but if she says no, then it is not right for her to have feelings for her. This will spoil your friendship.
don’t decide in haste
After listening to all your points, my advice is that do not take any decision in haste. Think about the pros and cons of each situation and be prepared for the consequences. You also have to think that she herself is going through a tough time. In such a situation, it may be that he is not mentally ready to take any decision. All these things should not affect your friendship. Be smart and give your friend some time.
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