I have seen message-videos of many girls in his mobile. So once I confronted him on this issue, he on the contrary blamed me. At first I thought he had made a mistake unknowingly, but seeing his same actions over and over again made me realize that he is just driving me crazy. I have two children. I don’t want to break this relationship, but I don’t even understand how to live with him? I am silent even after knowing everything. Help me Tell me what can be done in this case? (All images are indicative, we protect the identity of users in the stories shared by them)
Expert Answer
Vishal Bhardwaj, relationship coach and founder of Predictions for Success, says that it saddens me to see people go out of their way to ruin their marriages for the sake of a moment’s happiness. I can understand your state of mind very well.
A person can tolerate cheating only when an apology is made from the heart, but by cheating repeatedly, your husband has made it clear that he is not in love with you. At the same time, they do not even realize their mistake.
Will have to talk to husband
As you said that you do not want to break this marriage. In such a situation, I will tell you that you can definitely make one last effort to save your relationship. If your partner is blaming you for their mistakes, then you must sit and talk with them once. Make them realize that how much you and this relationship need them.
Not only this, you should also talk to them openly about this and explain how much loyalty and honesty matter in a married relationship. During this, you can also tell them that if this relationship breaks, it will affect both your children as well.
talk to family
If even after your best efforts, your husband is not ready to accept his mistake, then you should talk to your family. This is because sometimes we remain silent because what will happen to us if the relationship breaks up? However, this approach is not only completely wrong but can also land you in big trouble over a period of time.
If you do not work now, then you can also find financial options for yourself. I am also saying this because by being financially independent, you will be able to take better decisions for your self-respect. Both the parents have the responsibility of raising the children. Children consider their parents as role models. It is the responsibility of both of you to teach them the definition of the right relationship. Children don’t follow things. He only follows in your footsteps. In such a situation, if you remain sad or upset, then it will have a bad effect on them too.
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