Because of this, I do not want to get into a relationship with anyone. I know this situation will only get worse with time. However, my parents have also started looking for a girl for me. But looking at my past experiences, I don’t know if I will ever be able to trust anyone. Is there really such a thing as true love in this world? I don’t understand what should I do? Should I get married or take a break? (All images are indicative, we protect the identity of users in the stories shared by them)
Expert Answer
Jankhana Joshi, Mumbai-based counseling psychologist and dance movement therapy practitioner, says that repeated betrayals in romantic relationships lead to hatred of the word love. In such a situation, it is very common to get disillusioned with the relationship. There are many reasons behind the situation you are in today.
In such a situation, first of all you need to consider your thoughts. That’s because you have got cheated in the relationship every single time. In such a situation, it is very difficult for you to expect a healthy married relationship.
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gotta focus on myself
When you got cheated in love for the first time, then only then you should have started its treatment. By treatment, I mean working on yourself here. That’s because it helps you build trust in relationships. We try to ease our pain with the belief that one day it will subside on its own, but they say that wounds do not heal quickly. It is exactly the same with you.
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let emotions settle
Let your feelings settle down before getting into any new relationship. This is because if you take some time before jumping into a new relationship, you will be able to enter into a new relationship with a better perspective. I am asking you to do this because whenever we start a new relationship in an unhealthy way, couples compromise their needs. But when we accept the differences between ourselves and our partner, the relationship doesn’t feel like a compromise.
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love yourself
After listening to all your talk, I just want to tell you that don’t let your past affect your love life. Apart from this, the most important thing is that we have to learn to love ourselves. If we don’t do this, it will be difficult to give love to others. So rebuild your ability to give and receive love. This will not only strengthen your relationship but also reduce the loneliness you are feeling inside.
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